Admitting You Were Wrong, Is That So Hard

Have you ever done something so simple, and then realized that it hurt someone you care about. If the thing is so simple why is it hard to admit? Is it ego, pride, shame, not understanding that the simple thing you said could have been taken wrong by the other? Is it so important to always be right?

Is the making of a mistake so terrible that admitting it would crush you, your pride. Is that one mistake so large that it would shatter a friendship?

When you are arguing do you attack the person you care about? Do you yell out things that happen along time ago? Do you say things foolishly and then regret them later? Is your opinion the only opinion on the face of the earth? Is your truth the only truth?

Once again I ask is it really important to be right?

Has this happened? Let’s say you had an argument with a friend. During the argument they state how they feel and you tell them “No you didn’t say or do that.” Well I have news for you. That right there, is the incite as to how they took what happened or was said, that you missed. They are indeed telling you exactly, what they thought and felt. You could just stop it right there and say you’re sorry and explain why you feel how you felt. And it would be over.

Instead you need to exert you stupidity and attack then further, accusing them of things that you perceive they meant, creating even more hurt and even bigger separation. Better yet you try to use guilt to get them to your side, instead of sticking to the original argument, thereby making it about you.

Once again are you so important that you always have to be right?

Maybe in your past you learned to deal with things by screaming, ranting, raving, accusing. Maybe your childhood had a lot of pain and hurt and you are acting in defense. Trying to protect your sensitive heart. This may be true, but the person that you are arguing with had a different life. They deal with thing totally different then you.

Try to stay in the present moment and deal with the one small thing, before it grows into a gigantic mountain. Fight fair with talking only about the argument at hand. Don’t bring in all sorts of thing that have long been buried, to fling at them. Unless those things that happened in the past are truly not buried in? Then you need to learn to deal with the pain of them, and maybe learn forgiveness of what happened long ago.

How do you feel about this area? Has something happened similar or different that you want to share? Do you feel this is stupid and wish to put your thoughts up so all can learn? Share, laugh, learn and bond with other women. Take care.